I used to be clueless when it came to understanding women, especially after I had unintentionally shown neediness and clinginess, driving them away. However, I've learned a few things since then, and I'm here to share some quick fixes to help you regain her attraction.
First, if you find yourself pouring more into the proverbial "love bucket" than she is, it's time to back off. Take a step back and analyze your text message threads. If you notice that you're the one initiating and dominating the conversation, you're showing neediness and not leaving her enough space to contribute to the relationship. To correct this, stop putting so much in the bucket and give her room to reciprocate. However, be cautious not to come off as cold, passive-aggressive, or a "dick," as this will only push her further away.
Second, once you start pulling away, she will undoubtedly notice the change. Human beings, especially women, are very perceptive to changes in energy and dynamics. When you pull back, she will be drawn to investigate the reason for this shift. At this point, it's crucial to remain kind and respectful. If she looks back and sees that you're still a kind, genuine person, she will be more likely to reconsider her feelings for you.
Lastly, continue to want her without needing anything in return. This is often the most challenging part for self-proclaimed "nice guys." They expect their kindness to be reciprocated, and become upset if it isn't. However, if you can maintain your cool and continue to find her attractive without expecting anything in return, she will take notice.
By following these three steps, you can prove to her that you're not the pushover or doormat she may have initially perceived you to be. Once she sees this, she will likely fall for you all over again. However, be cautious not to become overly eager or desperate once you have her attention, as this can have the opposite effect and push her away.
In conclusion, understanding and implementing these strategies can significantly improve your chances of attracting and maintaining the interest of the women you desire. It's essential to find the right balance between showing interest and giving her space, all while maintaining your cool and being kind. By doing so, you'll be well on your way to building a strong, healthy relationship.